L'affaire Rakhi Sawant (or l'affaires Rakhi Sawant, since there is one every week) with the impossibly named Mika Singh shows that even our most liberated kind are the most hypocritical when it comes to lip-o-suction of the other kind.
Okay, maybe the complaint to the police over the alleged molestation ("Usne mera gala pakda aur bahut zor se kiss kiya") is serious and may be genuine although the unkind among us would like to see it as just a publicity ploy of the item girl.
Okay, maybe she has reason to feel aggrieved that, when all she was expecting was a gentle peck on the cheek in the grand and noble traditions of high society, Mr Singh should have had the nerve to place it with such force "Someplace Else".
Okay, maybe churumuri shouldn't bother with such trivial, frivolous, titillatory stuff when there are more pressing matters like, farmers' suicides and malnutrition of children, to worry about.
Still, since there is P. Sainath to take care of those weighty issues, we would be failing in our duties to let this pass.
(Please treat this as the appropriate time to curse journalists.)
Think of it.
Ms Sawant, who poses half-nude in movies, doesn't think that that is an un-Indian thing to do for an Indian woman.
Ms Sawant who does her jatkas and matkas on stage, inviting charges of obscene behaviour, doesn't think that that is an un-Indian thing to do for an Indian woman.
Ms Sawant who thrusts her pelvis in our faces (and that of our sisters, mothers, wives and daughters, not to include their male halves) in itsy-bitsy clothes held up by hope, doesn't think that that is an un-Indian thing for an Indian woman to do.
But a lip-to-lip kiss ("he bit my lips twice") from someone she knows and has worked with, someone she planted a kiss on first, someone to whose party she went to upon request, is somehow not Indian.
Really?
Sure, Ms Sawant's stage acts and cinematic actions come under professional behaviour, for which she is paid, and it would be ridiculous to expect her to behave the same way in her private life, too.
Sure, just because Ms Sawant is an item girl, she does not become easy meat for any testosterone-rich Singh or thing.
Sure, the videographed violence on the part of Mr Singh in such an act is something to be frowned upon.
But the issue is not the implicit violence alone, reprehensible as it is; the question is also the easy labelling. Is the lip-to-lip kiss really so un-Indian, as Ms Sawant—and Mr Singh's brother, the redoubtable Daler Mehendi—claim?
Listen to Sage Mehendi: "Party kissing is an unwelcome intrusion into Indian culture. It's not an Indian culture."
Since when? (Maybe not in public, not with strangers.)
By that yardstick, is a birthday party Indian? Is drink and dope at a party Indian? Is a kiss on the cheek or a welcome hug Indian? Is a slit skirt at a party Indian?
The Kama Sutra talks among other techniques, of the splitting of a bamboo, of the climbing of a tree, of the twining of a creeper, of the sporting of a sparrow.
It also says this, "When a man bites a woman forcibly, she should angrily do the same to him with double force." Doth Ms Sawant protest too much or is she just giving it a convenient Bharatiya spin in calling it un-Indian?
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Rakhi Sawant was featured in an interview on CNN-IBN over the weekend. Here is what she had to say when Anuradha SenGupta asked if, in the male-dominated film industry, men exploited women?
Rakhi Sawant: Mam, main bolti hoon ki vo zamana chala gaya ki men women ko nachate the. Aaj jo hai, women men ko nachate hai. Ye hamara zamana hai, you know. We can do anything. Sorry, guys. I am so sorry. (Gone are the days when men used to exploit women. Today, women exploit men. Women can do anything. Sorry, guys!)
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As that tall, topless, leggy Gujarati item-bhaiyya from the early 1900s would have said: "A thigh for a thigh only makes the whole world go blind."
I bet the cops are having a whale of a time getting Rakhi Sawant to file the FIR. If she is claiming to have been bitten twice, as you say, then the investigators will need to look at each bite carefully. But, seriously, this is just a crazy publicity hound who is having the media eat out of her hands and lips. But the squeamishness over the lip-to-lip should not surprise us at all. Our children can be exposed to the most obscene stuff in the name of entertainment, but a kiss. My god, no.
Aaa Interview naanu nodidhe.. Raakhi Sawant is always in news for reasons which are BAD( in what sense?..Questionable )
she seems to be a girl from Lower Middle Class and ready to do anything for Publicity and Fame .Today in entertainment world
where Girls would do anything to appear in a sleazy Videos all in the nAME of ‘FAME and MONEY’..isnt this a easy way to get it ??
or Maybe they suffer from a psychological problems where they want to attain all those comforts which they were deprived
of while in childhood or that wanting for a life that never existed while growing up and the easy way is ‘BEING SEXY’.
Regarding Kissing or ‘LIP-‘O’-SMACK I dont think there is anything Indian about it in Public unless the author has tried it in their Mohalla
How would people react if couples start kissing in ‘MYSORE BUS STAND’ , Sure to get spanked .
ODHEE Gaurantee Kanla.
We see many times people kissing in Public in western world and many walk by without getting bothered .
The only thing it invites is a Glance with a smile or a frown by an elder .In India because of restrictions
the Animal Instinct grows like an unmanegeable MONSTER and people take advantage when they meet Girls like Raakhi Sawant’
Well I can write about these for Pages …let me end now..
Namma Kannexion Kalappa yellogbitta athava yaarthava aata aadthavne..Chenni nu kansthailla
Swarasya Vishya yen Gotha..Nanna friend Ibbaru Makkaligu school nalli Girl friends idhare ( they are still in preschool nursery ) ..The little girls are encouraged to give Love letters and give a kiss ( peck) by their respective parents .The Boys parents are quite enraged and say it is ‘UNINDIAN’.
The next day when OUR boys go and resist their ‘ADVANCES’ ..the girls sob and their parents called my friends to say how excited they were that their little Girls had first ‘BOYFRIENDS’ ….Quite hilarious
DG.. thats hilarious… ondu kade makkale alva parVagilla annisotthe.. aadre inondu kade prashne yenu andre.. Why are parents encouraging this? Ivarella “foreign return” parties irabeku…
Ayyo ‘Prajae’..idhu Pareign Visyanae kanri.I dont think Parents in India get excited if Little girls found Little Boys.
Anyway Parents(Indian) needs to have lot of patience to make them understand the good and bad things ..Unlike our parents where most of them were ‘Naavu helidh mele aste’ types
Mika to Rakhi: Tum karo tho Chamatkaar? Hum Kare to Balathkaar?