Janaki Murali in Deccan Herald:
“When did parents decide to include engineering and computer science in their aspirations for their girls as well as boys? Did they suddenly decide to bring gender parity into their homes? Or are grooms now demanding that their brides be computer literate?
“I have a sneaking feeling that it’s the marriage market that is dictating these decisions. Many girls are being turned down by prospective grooms if they do not have jobs in the IT sector. The grooms prefer their brides to be well qualified and to be working in the IT sector.
“The IT sector in fact has become what the public sector banks were to the marriage market some three decades ago. IT sector jobs are safe and secure (so far), with dependable incomes.”
Read the full article: IT sector leads the way in gender parity
Hudgara kastanu swalpa artha madkolri,
Ivathu olle (IT) hudgi sigodu yestu kasta gotha sir? Onda yerda condtions …. they place innumerable conditions on guys. Their first preference is for Green Card NRIs, atleast ondu year adru Uncle Sam deshdalli irbeku, Ondu olle apartment irbeku, 3 box sedan irbeku, atleast ondu site adru madirbeku …. infact I remember a matrimonial site mentioning the salary expected out of bride groom (min 7.5 lacs per anum).
This IT really sucks.
Also, please be informed that Divorce rates are high among the couples working in IT industry.
Yella kannadivolginga Gantu.
And most of the IT folks earnings goes as EMI to banks…….
They keep repaying Housing loan and other personal loans till the end of the life….
The Real gainers are Real estate brokers and agents,banks etc.
When is expecting that your bride should be well qualified and in a great job become a crime? So what are we supposed to infer from this, “By marrying a girl who has an engineering degree, we are helping domestic abuse”
I see this as the right approach. Nations are built on technology and commerce. Everyone in this country should have an inclination to completing these degrees. America was built by engineers, technologists and good management specialists.
The only way forward to any country is investment in technology and the know-how of managing them. (assuming that in countries like India, there is no dearth of doctors and farmers etc).
I fully agree to this notion of looking out for equally qualified brides.
IS THERE ANY POLITICAL PARTY which plans to waive off Personal Loans ????
Just like farmers loan ???
Definaitely IT Guys will vote in Unity for that party……
…Political parties……Are u listening ????
Lo “Sumne”, sumkirla swalpa. You have no idea about the quality of these so called IT professionals that we have in the industry today. Roadgondu engineering college, adare obba kuda olle mestru illa patha helodikke. I don’t have to talk about management quota and the kind of money these people are making. At the end of the day we have engg graduates who don’t know the difference between a class and an object. At a bigger level we are not doing any help to our state and our country by producing large numbers of these half baked unemployable yes-man type graduates who think their CTC should start from >10 Lakhs p.a. No wonder bangalore’s IT is purely service based (china, vietnam, ukraine being the other contenders in this rat race) and we don’t have a single product based company that stands out.
When I was looking for a bride for my son one lady asked me “how does your son go to the office in US?” Immediately I couldnot grasp the situation. Later it occurred to me that the lady wanted to know whether my son owns a car. Kaala badalaagide. Nimma maganige maduve maaDuvudakke horaDi gottaguttade, avary keLuva prashnegaLU, kealvu direct matte kelavu indirect. Nimma padaartha bangarave adaaroo huDugiya maneyavarige koTTu adannu parikhisalu oppabeku. HuDugana maneyavaru simple marriage saaku yendare alli yeno Donku ide yendu bhaavisuva janaroo iddaare. Comp knowledge iddare vaasi yenda maatrakke kelasakke hogalebeku yembudu sharattalla. Once upon a time music, tailoring, Hindi modaladuvugaLa bagge arivu irabeku yennuttiddaru. Haagendare avau soseyandiarannu tailor shop iDu yendaagali mattenaagali keLuttiralilla. Objectivity should come first….
@Kautilya
How on earth is quality of engineering colleges in Bangalore related to the topic of “Grooms preferring brides from IT”?
Well, I have seen doctors preferring to marry someone from their own profession. But when it comes to IT, everyone gets judgmental and pull out the IT bashing drums. If this phenomenon of marriage within IT profession is indirectly bridging the gender disparity, why should anyone be complaining?
yeah right! that we produce programmers who cannot distinguish between class and object is the most urgent problem.
here we have we have an entire herd of intellectuals who peddling sundry theories that play rough shod with all sorts class and subject distinctions and a handful of programmers who donot know how to handle nuances of object oriented terminlogy is the problem.
pardon the grammar
In the midst of these, can we not forget the ridiculousness of the argument that Janaki is putting forward? If we read the entire article, we see Janaki harping on the argument that women finding jobs in the IT sector is a reflection of a gender just world. Wake up Janaki! If it was the public sector in the 70s and 80s, it is the IT sector now – that’s it! But patriarchy and associated violence has always followed women into every workplace. Think of sexual harassment at work, think of what happened to Prathibha Murthy, think of the number of obscene emails and calls that women in IT sector have to deal with. Earning Rs 1 lakh a month doesn’t guarentee any woman equality! It only means a coming together of class and patriarchy!
and cannot believe that she thinks getting a job in the IT sector is a reflection of
This is a classic case of conflict of interest that the Indian media is so eager to brush under the carpet. Ms Janaki Murali is a former Deccan Herald journalist who is now an employee of Infosys. But neither Deccan Herald nor Churumuri make that clear. Obviously, her new job requires her to tout IT as the best thing since sliced bread, so does it surprise anybody that she should find such virtues in IT?
I think with IT women are at more of an advantage. The grooms need to have multiple degrees and unimaginable salaries to be considered!!
@KolikeRanga
The relation is the illusion of anything that goes with IT is good. I can still live with this, but what bothers me is when people start taking important decisions of their (or their son/daughters) life while being in this semblence.
@tarlesubba
I am not advocating object oriented technology for a long lasting matrimony
This is non-sense.
There should be a balance in everything. When it becomes imbalanced, the life goes to hell whether a groom/bride or their parents expect so called computer engineer.
If whole country becomes techis, who will grow food for us to eat?
IT egnineer should marry a non-IT to balance their life and reduce Divorce rates.
IT field is a untested field so far regarding the job stability. It is not a core science.
Doctors can get marry to a doctor only if they dedicate their life to cure the deceases not to make money.
Ambika,
IT egnineer should marry a non-IT to balance their life and reduce Divorce rates.
Lol. Madam, did an IT engineer refuse to marry you? Why so much of takleef against the marriage?
Kautilya,
The relation is the illusion of anything that goes with IT is good.
No. The relation is the belief that you are making the right choice. How a persone percieves what is right is left to him. We certainly dont need intellectuals like you who pander upon the ilussions of the world.:)
@Sumne
If you know you are making the right choice and if you really believe in it then don’t stop and don’t listen to anybody, just do what you think is right. Good for you. And don’t get me wrong I am no armchair intellect who comments on churmuri with a fancy alter ego and I have nothing against IT in general. The point is not everybody has your conviction and self belief. And when it comes to taking that important decision in your/your son/daughter’s life, please for god sake put aside your preconceptions and think without any prejudices.
“How a persone percieves what is right is left to him. We certainly dont need intellectuals like you who pander upon the ilussions of the world.”
You seem to be hell bent on winning a argument :)
What can I say? Should I say perceptions can be wrong or should I say sorry to jump in between your ridiculous rant.
Marriage is about prejudice. Our prejudice is inherent in our decision. When we say that we want an educated women, we are prejudiced against a non-educated women. When I say that she should belong to this caste and creed and follow my religion, I am prejudiced against everyone else who doesnt follow the same. When I say, I need a rich wife, I am prejudiced against all who are not. When I say, I need someone who is compatible to me, I am prejudiced in all those who are not.
So, please define an un-prejudiced decision and I will buy into your crap. Every decision that we make in our life is based on our perception of what is right. The decision to say what is right is prejudiced because of the way we are brought up.
Perceptions can be wrong. But who cares what you think. I want a wife and I will decide on how she qualifies to be my wife. Whether you think those decisions are prejudiced, wrong and sick is not my concern and quite rightfully, I will ask them to shove where the sun dont shine.
So, this is the point of my ridiculous rant.
How can an IT engineer refuse me when I am an IT engieer dear dirty Summeeneve. Instead I can reject anybody if I want to.