VINUTHA MALLYA writes: And once again our ‘rich culture’ has become the figleaf for the lack of political will to implement something useful for society. This time they are catching them young and the victims are school children.
If you thought Amitabh Bachchan was taking India to a regressive low, think again.
The people who should have the vision are making speeches that should have us up in arms, but alas, we fall for cheap rhetoric. Everything we don’t want to do can be pinned down to our glorious “culture”.
Our culture is so ‘rich’ and we are the stellar examples of a model civilization, are we not?
The honourable chief minister of Karnataka and his equally honourable colleague in the cabinet, the education minister, have decreed that sex education is only required in the West. And since we have such a “rich culture” (whatever that means—that Vatsayana wrote Kama Sutra?) we do not need to be educated on matters concerning sex.
Thus the buck has been firmly and effortlessly passed by this government—and indeed several others like Madhya Pradesh and Maharashtra—to the Centre.
Among the reasons cited in various newspapers, H.D. Kumaraswamy has used phrases like “sex education does not go well with our country’s culture and traditions”, and that sex education will be perceived as “anti-culture” and “anti-social”.
This statement come on the heels of recent surveys on child abuse in India, and specifically the alarming levels of abuse in Karnataka, which is nearly at the top of the national AIDS totempole.
In a country where teenage pregnancies are not uncommon (the unofficial statistic is one out of every three teenage girls) and child marriages are still rampant in some parts, to say that “sex education is only for the West, we are OK, thank you”, should make the thinking population sit down and cry.
Cry at the foolishness of these men in power, cry at the short sightedness of the policy-making machinery, and cry because, like the chief minister says, “we are not a foreign country”.
I wish we were—a foreign country, that is.
At least then we would be realistic, at least then we would be practical, at least then we would actually have the interest of our young children at heart, and not simply pursue political brownie points.
Since the chief minister never felt the need for his teenage son to be introduced to the birds and bees, I wonder where his son picked up what he needed to know.
Hotel Empire, maybe?
With schools being told not to open the book, let us look at the choice on the table for Indian teenagers: pornographic films, mindless soft porn in mainstream cinema, recollections of touching and fondling by an elderly relative in early childhood, and Playboy magazines, to name a few.
Somewhere in all this, the teenager can surely learn the lesson that a girl cannot get pregnant by kissing alone, that she has a right to say “no” to a sexual advance, that there is a difference between a good touch and a bad touch, and that the violator is the guilty one and not the violated.
I am certain that one of these sources is teaching our young teenaged children that although sex looks like a ‘hot’ pleasurable activity to indulge in, it comes with responsibilities.
I suppose the chief minister’s son went through the awkward years when the hormones were jangling in his body knowing all the answers about what was happening to him and why.
But I wonder if the son who has brought him such glory in the recent past, has turned out to be the example of a well rounded personality on the basis of the right information being made available to him at the right time.
The only way perhaps is to force all legislators and parliamentarians to undergo a compulsory course on sex education. Let us start with the adults. They need it more.
Hey Vinutha,
U speak crap. I support the view of the CM. Are our parents so busy that can not teach the children what is good and bad. By asking the teachers to handle this u may also be encouraging sexual abuse by the teachers themselves!!!
I ask the writer a question…Were you taught about sex by someone?? They had to show u where ur parts lie…???
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Very good article, Our politicians are good for nothing. Its not the culture which is stopping us from sex education, it is the mind set of people in power.
Our younger generation definately needs formal education as it is sensitive issue to handle at the tender age. Their natural curiosities need to be met in right manner
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BS article … ruling class usually attends the practical classes not the theory ones !!!!
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Good One!!! Our politicians are not bold enough to take a stand on this.
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Did you guys read about the Sex Stimulants found in Suitcase of the tainted MP caught in Human Traficking ?
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Headline from VoxPopuli
Progressive CM Kumaranna gets private lessons in education from Karavaliya sundari
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DB, that was funny!!
Where do you work Vinutha? Some entity like ToI, guessing from the pile of trash in your article. One in 3 teen age pregnancies? That’s higher than the rate in US!! Please step out of your ivory tower.
Sex Ed should take cultural sensibilities into account too. Translating material from some UN agency and forcing it on 10 year olds is not going to do it. There are better ways than yielding to a bunch of culturally disconnected activist groups who are out to force sex ed in the name of AIDS awareness.
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crazyashik123,
Or rather Vinutha, great piece. And crazyashik123, sex education is not just talking about sex but teaching the politics that surround sex: the politics of domination that most people don’t seem to understand. Ever since patriarchy institutionalized private property women’s reproduction has been controlled by men. I hope you understand this. Sex education tries to make this obvious. It does not limit itself to teaching where body parts are.
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I would like to know what SK Smita and Rama have to say on this. Thanks.
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I always thought sex education was about the uses of the said body parts :)
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I recently I saw this Interview of school teachers about the sex education.
The sex education in schools involved a game wherein a BOy is made to wear a HAT shaped like a ‘Condom’ and Girls are allowed to touch him .
and Girls shouldnt touch those boys without the Hats . If they touch by mistake they were ‘OUT’
The above game was supposed to be played in schools as part of initiative and the teachers were too embrassed to even discuss it on T.V .
I saw it on udaya vaarthe and found it hilarious .
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Somehow, I agree that children (particularly around the age of 10-12 years) should be taught about the human body and they should know the process of procreation. This can be taught in a very subtle manner without influencing bad thoughts in children. I was watching IBNLIVE TV discussion where UR Rao was against this – particularly because of the content that was to be distributed in schools. I thought I should support his view for that very purpose alone.
Just banning the sex education will not solve the purpose. Indeed it would do more harm to the society with children venturing into Internet in search of pornographic sites – which is even more dangerous. In any case, there will be a certain percentage of children who would tend to go astray whether if this education is imparted or not. There is nothing that we as a society can do about this. But atleast, there is a certain awareness that will be created in the minds of children – where they can understand difference between a “good” touch and a “bad” one.
I agree with the view that this kind of an education also should have in mind the culture of a country in view. Just by bringing in the information published by WHO for western countries might not be of help. Maybe, Indian Government can constitute a committee of experts in the area of education, sexual health, psychologists and any other related areas to put forth a similar kind of material into a school syllabus wherein it can be taught in schools by a few recognised experts in all schools. I say this because, you do not need a full time teacher in every school to teach this syllabus :)
My 2 cents….
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DB:
I suggest to strip DB and use him to teach the students about privates. What else do you expect from me???!!!
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Rama
Smita will be proud of you!
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Rama,
Several bloggers here have lost the use of their eyes having been blinded by the brilliance of your suggestion!
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The discussion on the sensitive topic is veering off the Radar.Agreed our society is traditoinal and our society has a hoary cultural past which does not allow a peep in to the topic on sex education. But, we did not know that we would be one of the leading HIV- AIDS cases in the world mostly made of teenagers. The way society has progressed(?), everything is available thro’ Net at the touch of a button. Would you rather sensitise impressionable minds thro’s the teachers what they must know or allow them to get’ smut thro’ Net’?The young unwed mothers, Aids victim’s one lament is: ‘if only I had known, If only somebody had cautioned me’.Times are a-changing and for god’s sake just like you give them 3 R’s , also teach them what they need to know else they will learn 1000 other things that even you did not know.It will be too late for them and damage is not far away. The question is not ‘Should we teach them?’ but’ Aren’t we doing damage to them by keeping in the dark and wake up when it’s too late?’ it should be at an young age and in a manner that is not offensive and to make them realise the pitfalls so that they don’t choose their own paths led by smutnet…
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